"Love, to be really love, has to be being-love, gift-love. Being-love means a state of love. When you have arrived home, when you have known who you are, then a love arises in your being. Then the fragrance spreads and you can give it to others." (Osho, “Tantric Transformation”)
I know this to be true, for my own journey . . . after several years of collaborating with my spiritual teacher, I gradually began to arrive at a deeper knowing of my worthiness to be loved and accepted unconditionally. When I could give this love and acceptance to myself, that same unconditional love and acceptance began to flow outward into my relationships and to the world. It felt utterly electrifying to experience this revolutionary shift.
Around the time this outward flow was starting to happen, I remember having a conversation with my former husband Jim to whom I’ve been married twice. As you might imagine, Jim and I have been through a great deal of pain and confusion during our two marriages/divorces. And yet, I was feeling a growing ease in being able to accept him for who he is and to release my judgement and woundedness. He was asking me how this was possible . . . and I explained this principle, of coming to the place of embracing who I am and feeling tender and patient with myself . . . and how when this truth is present at my core, I can share the same essence with others.
Really, it’s miraculous.
What are your thoughts about coming home to yourself? Where are you in this process? How do you feel about who you find there?