“An amazing thing happens when you stop seeking approval and validation: You find it. People are naturally drawn like magnets to those who know who they are and cannot be shaken!” (Mandy Hale)
I spent 4+ decades of my life trying to find meaning and joy, from the outside, in. For so long, I was all about "doing." I was a performer, a perfectionist, a good girl, a caretaker. For me, it was an utterly exhausting, killing way to show up in the world.
When it began to dawn on me that my approach to living was absolutely backwards - that I needed to begin from the inside and evolve outward - I felt confused. I felt like I'd lost my bearings. It felt like a death. Which, of course, it was but in the best way possible. In order to discover my new path, I chose to die to the old roles and patterns that I had believed kept me safe and secure.
Embracing unconditional love and acceptance for myself - starting with that unchangeable truth - and practicing it in relationship with trustworthy others has completely transformed the signature of my existence. Knowing my value, my worthiness, is always a process . . . and it grows from the inside, out.
How do you experience your sense of self-worth? What helps it develop? What may stand in its way?
Thanks for sharing some of your story here. Big Love to you . . .